is so much different than planning a first.
I do not want a big 'to do'. (but then I didn't want a big 'to do' the first time around either....)
I just want to be married.
I didn't want to have to pick a date, get a license, invite people, plan it out, think about it .... I just want to be married.
but things are not that simple. In order to be legally married, I do have to get a license. oh bother.
In order to get married in the church, I do have to meet with the Pastor, pick a date, have a witness. oh dear.
so we did.
We met with the Pastor last Saturday. He asked us a few personal questions that I won't go into on here. We talked about our past marriages, and what went wrong in them. How we felt that we could overcome those issues so that they would not reoccur in this marriage. He asked us what date we wanted. We looked at one another. We hadn't picked a day. I had mentioned that, because I had been married in September before, I didn't think September was a good month; we should either get married in August or wait until October. He picked August 27th. It would still be August, but it would also give us time to plan. The Pastor asked, "What time?" We looked at one another. We hadn't thought about "what time?" I picked the time. not sure why, but I thought it sounded good. 6:00pm. We talked to the Pastor a bit more. Mark has never been married in a church. Mark has never even attended a wedding in a church. He is looking forward to picking out our Bible readings. I know he will put a great deal of thought into which ones he wants. We left the Pastor....
Mark did buy me a ring. He had it when he proposed, and now it's being resized.
When we took my ring in to be sized, I bought him a ring. It's sitting in the box that my ring came in. waiting.
Mark wanted a new suit. I didn't see the reason or need to spend money to get anything new, but Mark wanted 'new'. He wants a few new things for our new life.
At first I was balking a bit; I felt it a needless waste of money, but the idea is growing on me. As I've been out planning and getting a few things, I find myself enjoying this whole process.
So Mark ordered a new suit. Charcoal.
Now I needed a dress. I kept thinking about all the dresses in my closet. Surely one of those would work ... but in the back of my head, I kept thinking I should 'suck it up' and get a new dress to go with his new suit.
I found one on "calvinklein.com". on sale (!). Charcoal.
win/win
Both my daughter and my best friend, Karen, approved of the dress, so I ordered it.
When I called my mom to tell her about the wedding, she asked me if I was going to be getting a photographer. a photographer?? I never even thought of a photographer. I didn't want to hire a photographer. It's my second wedding. I don't want to go all out. I don't want to spend lots of money. But my mom insisted I needed pictures. hmmmmm. Wait a minute .... my sister just received an amazing camera from her amazing boyfriend. She takes amazing pictures. We really weren't planning on family being here, but if I could get my sister here, I'd have a photographer.
My sister is coming. I have my photographer.
(We weren't planning on family, because we knew most of them would not be able to make it out here on such short notice, especially this time of the year with school starting back up. My son is still in school, and my daughter is a teacher. Timing's not so great for them.....)
Then it dawned on me, will I be walking up the aisle? Will I need flowers? If I don't have flowers, what will I do with my hands? I have a friend who works at the florist shop just around the corner. I went in and talked to her ....
--"do I need flowers?", I asked.
--"Of course, you need flowers!", she answered.
--"but I want it simple. I don't want a big 'to do.'"
--"We'll keep it simple. What color flowers were you thinking?"
--"I don't know. I wasn't thinking."
--"What color will you be wearing? What color will he be wearing?"
--"Charcoal."
--"Ohhhh, Charcoal. I love it. Lavender is so pretty with charcoal. Would you like lavender?"
--"maybe."
--"Let's look." she pulls out her book, we look. "These lavender roses would be beautiful with charcoal."
--"OK"
I buy a bouquet for me. A corsage for my witness. Two boutonnieres; one for him, one for his witness. all lavender roses.
I think, "Do I need a cake?" I tell myself, "I LIKE cake." I'll get a cake. Cake is always good.
Cake and champagne. mmmmmmm. I run into the Cupcake Hut to order my cake.
--"What can I help you with?"
--"I want to order a cake."
--"For?"
--"I'm getting married."
--"Oh congratulations! What would you like?"
--"I don't know."
--"How many people?"
--"Oh, very small. Very, very small. The cake only needs to feed a few people."
--"One tier or two?"
--"One."
--"OK, what flavor?"
--"I don't know. What flavors do you have?"
--"Vanilla, chocolate, red velvet, lemon...."
--"Lemon!"
--"OK, Do you want flowers on it."
--"No. I am not a flower type person. I really am very simple and very easy to please. If you keep it simple, I will be happy. I promise."
--"Simple and elegant?"
--"Yes. Thank you."
I pay. I leave.
I head for the liquor store. It's been a while since I've been in a liquor store, so at first I just walk around noticing everything. I pick out a big bottle of champagne and two smaller bottles of pink champagne. All the same name. From New Mexico. I feel that is appropriate. I tell the woman behind the counter that I'm buying champagne because I'm getting married. She congratulates me. I ask her if she uses Mary Kay. She does not. I ask her about her skin, give her a few samples and get her name and phone number so I can follow up with her later. I love my job!!
So now my wedding is planned. This Friday, we will go and get the license.
Soon ...... I will be married.
I just want to be married.